On my resume there are many job descriptions and titles that I have had over the past twenty years. But what I realize is that the most important job I have had is not listed. The title, “Mom”, is nowhere to be found.
Thirteen years ago, I had no idea what job I was signing up for when I learned I was going to be a mother. The anxiety and anticipation to bring a life into this world was daunting. There are still moments in each day that I realize that I have one of the toughest and most rewarding jobs in the world. When God gave me the chance to be the mom of four monkeys, I had no idea what was in store for me. Never has there been a moment in my motherhood career that I felt like an expert. I learn everyday from these kids of mine and they encourage me to wake up and be better for them.
Our job as mothers is about one thing, and that is influence. I realize that my children listen and wait to hear what I have to say. They watch what I do and learn from me. I’m influencing them. But it’s not a temporary thing, it lasts a lifetime.
I have learned to apologize for when I have been wrong, provide support when I have least expected it, and juggle so many things. I have learned to prioritize what matters, and sometimes I get it wrong. But at the end of the day, I often hear the words “I love you” and I am encouraged that I am influencing them.
I have also learned that what I have had planned for them, may not be what they are born to do or be. I have learned to adjust and compromise, and I do my best to encourage them to pursue their hopes and dreams of becoming potential artists, architects, doctors, animal rescuers, or ballerinas one day. I want them to feel supported and know that their momma has their back.
I have learned the importance of setting boundaries for these guys and expecting them to have respect for us and others. I want them to know they are responsible for who they are. They are responsible for who they become. They are responsible for getting what they want out of this life. I will always be their biggest fan and do my best to coach them along the way.
I want to influence them the way my mom has influenced me.
I’m so grateful for the love and influence that my mom has given me and continues to give me. Each day I know I get a call from her at 8:12 am and she’s checking in to see if I have dropped off the kids and that we are alright. She tells jokes, she makes me laugh, she fills me with her energy, and she is the additional cup of coffee that I need in the morning. I know she has been up since 5:30 am and has already been to mass to pray for me and my tribe. I know she worries about me and is my biggest advocate. She sometimes scratches her head when I share an idea, but she will support me in knowing that I am making choices based on what I hope is best for my family.
She influences me, but her love and influence spill over onto so many. She encourages strangers she meets in random places, and cheers them on as they need her to support their next step. She is the person that God puts in unique places when others need a jolt of “life”. You see, my mother lives each moment of every day to the absolute fullest. She never allows a second to go by where she does not enjoy or appreciate life. Of course, she has had challenges, but lives by a simple philosophy. She says, “You have a choice. You can choose to allow negativity take over your life or you can choose to learn from it and move through it.”
She probably doesn’t realize how much she has influenced me, my life, and my desire to give the support to my children that she has always given me. My mother was present and still continues to be present. Growing up, she allowed me to make my own decisions and she has always believed in me. She has taught me and is my inspiration as I raise my children. I want my kids to know, “They have a choice.”
So thank you, mom. Thank you for being an influencer and supporter, not just for me, but for so many. I continue to learn how to embrace new things and have more fun through you. I may not always be successful, but I know you know that I am trying!
Whether you are a mom of one, or a mom of many, a mom of an angel in heaven, or of one here on earth, enjoy your special day this weekend. Being a mom isn’t easy, but it’s the job title that I know many of us are most proud of. Take pride in your influence and embrace your children’s love for you…and remember to live each moment of every day to the absolute fullest.
Make it a great day!